Cocomma's Diaries
Anecdotes, truths, and reflections from the heart of an AkwaCross second daughter – about life, identity and everything in between.
- Your Desperation Makes You Unattractive
- Ghosting or Avoidance, Same Meaning, Not Interested
- Woman, You Were Made Whole
- Peaceful Men Do Not Need To Announce It
- I Regret It All
- Never Say Never
- Reading What Isn’t There
- Nigerian False Preachers: The Bible Does Not Give You Immunity
- Biafra Is Not My Freedom
- Food Has a Passport: Africa Is Not a Kitchen
- My Traumatic Experience with an Insecure Wife
- Nigeria Does Not Love Women
- Preparation in the Pit
- You Don’t Love That Child, You Just Refused to Think First
- Born Nigerian
- The Problem With Your Question About “Tribe”
- The Devil Takes the Blame, Nigerians Take Nothing
- Devout on Sunday, Different on Monday
- Not Now, Not Never
- Beyond Denominations
- When Silence Falls
- Scarcity Does Not Equal Value for Practicing Christians
- The Loneliness of Being Understood
- Where My Thoughts Go to Breathe
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Category: Reflections
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I cannot stress this enough, but I find it deeply disheartening how some women have idolized relationships and marriage to the point where self respect, discernment, and rational judgment become completely eroded. Attraction and respect are tied to choice and self respect, thus once a man has clearly stated that he has chosen someone else,…
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“Remember when you said this could never be you?” That thought crossed my mind as I sat on a park bench after work, watching people pass by and reflecting on how life has a way of humbling even our strongest certainties. In that moment, I suddenly remembered the many discussions ten year old me had…
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First time I received a call from this number was a little over two months ago. I was working from the office but was also expecting a delivery, so I had my phone close by whenever it was convenient. I had to step into a meeting and by the time I returned I already had…
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The Ultimate Curse at 65 Years of Independence At just four years old, I had my first painful encounter with the harsh realities of Nigeria. Though my early childhood was filled with warmth and family visits, a self-proclaimed prophetess influenced my mother to leave home and give birth in the village to avoid spiritual threats.…
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Aerial view of a Nigerian city from an airplane, symbolizing Nigeria’s diversity and complexity beyond the idea of tribes.
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Separating partial truths from biblical truth I was scrolling through the web, reading random stuff like I usually do, and I bumped into a video of the self acclaimed apostle stating the above. From the first “if” I heard, I knew I was going to be even more disappointed. Nevertheless, I was very disturbed not…
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There is a particular kind of loneliness that comes with being understood. Not because it hurts, but because it happens so rarely. I met up with a friend for dinner the other day. We got to speaking about the challenges of relationships, and she mentioned that a major reason her marriage ended in divorce was…
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There are moments when I feel like I carry a world of thoughts no one around me hears. Not because I don’t have a voice, but because I rarely find the space or people I want to share it with. I grew up differently, and my upbringing and experiences have deeply shaped how I view…